Do your role models serve you?

This morning I was asking for answers to some questions....
I feel like I am changing at what feels like a snails pace in certain areas of my life...
When I meditated on this question "how do I find peace and acceptance around (this area) of my life" I was given this to ponder in return;
"See if your looking to a role model that doesn't serve you any longer".

At first I didn't get it...but as I thought more about it I realize that I have "role models" that have been unconscious role models. No one likes to think they would pick a role model who emulates disfunction and unhappiness right? Well, in trying to receive love - especially as a child- I believe we can put a person (disfunctional or not) on a pedestal. That person becomes a "role model" simply because we think, "if I am like them they will love me"...
It's an interesting day when you realize you've spent your life subconsciously trying to become the person you've been trying your whole life not to become!

I have an immense amount of gratitude for the guidance and awareness I have received and look forward to seeing how this will change my perspective.