What do we do when the people we love repeatedly will not respect us and consider our feelings? Do we move on? Respect and consideration are so important in a relationship and if we aren't getting either...why stay?Having enough love for ourselves to know when we are not being treated as we would like to be treated, and having the courage to ask for what we need is not an easy task. However once the courage and willingness has been made there is a feeling of peace. Knowing that we deserve more and standing up for ourselves is empowering.
So, I believe we must honor who we are and express ourselves, if another person cannot or will not provide what we need in the relationship then we move on simply out of incompatibility.
Letting go can be very challenging and some of us cling to the idea that, somehow in the future things may be different. But it isn't good for either person if we put your lives on hold based on someone's "potential" to change. We can only change ourselves and if that is not an option then we have no other choice but to let the other go with love to live their best lives...even though it may be painful to do so.
3 comments:
Sounds spoken from someone who has spent a lot of time in Warrior pose.
Love,
KK
Oh my gosh I have hung on so tightly to other people's potential. Not just men or boyfriends, but my friends from the past as well. It is a sick cycle. Taking it a step further I can see many motives. All of them are bad, too. Like waiting for the disappointment of someone letting me down (the premeditated resentment) so I could fuel anger heartache and self pity, or thinking that I was better than someone because of course I'd NEVER do what she just did to me (my girlfriends in college). Right.
Today I still love to see other people's potential. I don't think that is bad at all. Giving the benifit of the doubt is a positive personality trait if you ask me. My hang up is when I think of how the potential will fit into my life and am I counting on this to happen? If I have an expectation around someone else's potential that is when I trip.
And I do this most days with Jim. Hmmm. Yikes maybe?? Interesting. Thanks for the column Gabi. I think after I read what you write.
I'll talk to you later Gabi. I have missed you this week and I am SO GLAD it is Saturday!!!
love,
Sadie
How I needed this today. Thank you.
Love you,
T
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